Hacker News with Generative AI: Relationships

What We Knew Without Knowing (newyorker.com)
I said I wasn’t sure where we left off, Dr. MacKinnon said why not begin where you are now. I said I wasn’t sure where I was now, life seemed rather scattered, we had not seen Quintana but had talked to her, she had seemed on the occasions we spoke in generally good spirits, fairly upbeat. Still, I found myself worrying, waiting for the bad news to kick in.
Physical attractiveness far outweighs other traits in online dating success (psypost.org)
A new study published in Computers in Human Behavior Reports has found that when it comes to online dating, physical appearance overwhelmingly determines who gets matched.
Your AI Lover Will Change You (newyorker.com)
Is it important that your lover be a biological human instead of an A.I. or a robot, or will even asking this question soon feel like an antiquated prejudice?
Would You Rather Have Married Young? (metropolitanreview.org)
In an iconic episode of Girls, “One Man’s Trash,” Hannah spontaneously spends a weekend with a hot, respectful doctor in his expensive brownstone.
My pet rat is dying. I can't stop thinking about all the things he taught me (theguardian.com)
But here’s the thing: Bob is my son. He is kind, cuddly, stubborn and wilful. Even people who don’t like rats are moved by him.
It's not cheating if you write the video game solver yourself (robertheaton.com)
My wife and two little boys sometimes go on trips to see friends or family for whom my presence isn’t strictly required.
There Are Other People in the World (defector.com)
You are at the supermarket. You push your shopping cart up and down the aisles, filling it as desired. You are making good time, especially in a crowded store, but suddenly you need to stop, because you need to reach something on a high shelf, or because you want to compare a few different items, or perhaps because you ran into a friend you haven't seen in a while and want to chat.
The Elon Musk Cheating Scandal [video] (youtube.com)
Marrying Up and Marrying Down (medium.com)
The most important decision we make is who we partner with, who we marry. However, for many, marriage isn’t an essential life choice … it’s a luxury item. I asked my friend, the social scientist Richard Reeves, to pen a post on the subject.
Why calling loved ones by their name is strangely awkward (theatlantic.com)
Why calling loved ones by their name is strangely awkward
Our Changing Relationship with Apple (mjtsai.com)
Apple’s positive effect on my life should not be underestimated. […] But I need to remember, now and again, that Apple is a corporation, and corporations aren’t people, and they can’t love you back. You wouldn’t love GE or Exxon or Comcast — and you shouldn’t love Apple. It’s not an exception to the rule: there are no exceptions.
US friendship is in freefall – shredding bonds and cutting lives short (nypost.com)
Friendship in America is in steep decline: We’re more disconnected from each other than ever, and the gulf between us is only growing. Does it matter?
For one husband, caregiving came easier when he learned to 'shut up and listen' (text.npr.org)
I remember my reaction when my wife called me at work to say a radiologist looked at her mammogram results and said: "Sure looks like cancer to me."
Men overestimate women's preference for masculinity (bps.org.uk)
No Evidence of Disease (idlewords.com)
My girlfriend Diane met Stephanie last October at a free makeup event for women with cancer called Look Good Feel Better.
Physical attractiveness outweighs intelligence in partner selection (psypost.org)
Women and their parents report that intelligence is more important than physical attractiveness in a long-term partner, yet when forced to choose, they both favor a more attractive mate—even when the less attractive option is described as more intelligent.
Excessive Criticism Is a Sign of Internal Conflict (Projecting) (kupajo.com)
Excessive criticism is a red flag that signals internal conflict.
Show HN: I made a desk toy for people in long-distance relationships (theattentionbutton.in)
Instant connection with your special someone. Available now.
I Paid $70 for an AI Boyfriend. It Was So Worth It (harpersbazaar.com)
Sharing a ChatGPT Account with My Wife (startupbaniya.com)
I was curious to see how ChatGPT would respond to this question, and the answer was interesting because my wife and I share the same ChatGPT Pro account, but we use AI in different ways.
My Wife's Enemies Are Now My Enemies, Too (2019) (thecut.com)
Until about five years ago, I got along with basically everyone. Sometimes, I knew, people didn’t care for me, but my impeccable get-along instincts and crushing fear of confrontation prevented things from coming to a head very often. And if I didn’t like someone, I’d try to never let them know, because even if the sight of them made my stomach curdle, I still wanted them to like me.
Explaining Glasser's 'Quality World' (thebetterplan.org)
“Learning what is in a person’s ‘Quality World’ and trying to support it, will bring us closer to that person than anything else we can do.” (p. 51).
A Billionaire's Biggest Regret (nytimes.com)
Bill Gates recently described the dissolution of his 27-year marriage as a painful “mistake.” As he’s learned, you can’t put a price on a relationship that’s seen you through it all.
Ask vs. Guess Culture (jeanhsu.substack.com)
When unreasonable requests are followed up with "but you could have just said no!" Exploring the clashes of ask culture and guess culture, at home and at work.
It's not 'emotional labour', it's kin work (thefuturefeeling.substack.com)
I’ve just come back from a seasonal gathering where it was obvious – as it is obvious every year – that the women in the heterosexual couples had done a far larger amount of work than their partners.
Show HN: How I built a SaaS thanks to my wife (pdfbolt.com)
She Is in Love with ChatGPT (nytimes.com)
She Is in Love with ChatGPT (nytimes.com)
A marriage proposal spoken in office jargon (mcsweeneys.net)
GARY: Hey Cindy, remember the other day when we were talking about optimizations?
The Typical Man Disgusts the Typical Woman (betonit.ai)
Ever seen this famous OkCupid graph? The quick summary is just: “Men rate women more highly than women rate men.”