Hacker News with Generative AI: Relationships

Mouth bacteria partially spread depression and anxiety in newlywed couples (xiahepublishing.com)
Oral microbiota transmission between individuals in close contact partially mediates symptoms of depression and anxiety.

Mental Health, Microbiology, Relationships, Science

53 points by nreece 62 days ago | 22 comments

Root for your friends (josephthacker.com)
Heads‑up: The concept of this post might seem trivial, but it can improve your career, happiness, and the people you care about. Proceed without caution. It only takes about 10 minutes to read.

Friendship, Career, Happiness, Relationships

437 points by rez0123 63 days ago | 168 comments

Why men feel sad when their wives earn more (bbc.com)
What we earn can affect our mental wellbeing, especially when we compare ourselves to those around us – and it can negatively influence male mental health.

Gender, Mental Health, Relationships, Economics, Social Comparison

6 points by pseudolus 67 days ago | 0 comments

Oskar Kokoschka, Hermine Moos, and the Alma Mahler Doll (publicdomainreview.org)
When Oskar Kokoschka fell in love with Alma Mahler, he fell harder than Satan into Hell. “What you are, I am: if you turn from me, I am once again like no one and have no world”, he wrote on April 26, 1912. “I live in you, and I only live truly and really for as long as you believe in me.”

Art, History, Relationships

7 points by Goodbichon 68 days ago | 3 comments

Jerry Lee Lewis' marriage to a 13-year-old wrecked his career (2008) (dailymail.co.uk)
Among teenagers of a musical bent, there was much anticipation 50 years ago this week.

Music, Biography, History, Relationships

5 points by Tomte 73 days ago | 0 comments

In a high-stress work environment, prioritize relationships (bearblog.dev)
In a high-stress work environment, prioritize relationships

Work-Life Balance, Stress Management, Relationships, Mental Health

346 points by wqtz 73 days ago | 212 comments

How my ADHD makes handling relationships difficult (aaronjy.me)
As someone with ADHD, I really struggle with maintaining relationships. Not because I don't want them, but because I struggle to keep in touch for various reasons.

ADHD, Relationships, Mental Health

23 points by aaronyarborough 81 days ago | 18 comments

People are losing loved ones to AI-fueled spiritual fantasies (rollingstone.com)
Less than a year after marrying a man she had met at the beginning of the Covid-19 pandemic, Kat felt tension mounting between them.

Artificial Intelligence, Relationships, Culture

182 points by wzm 82 days ago | 161 comments

Groundhog Day made me quit my job, move house and leave my girlfriend (theguardian.com)
When I saw Bill Murray’s classic comedy I realised that I was trapped in my own unfulfilling time loop

Life Choices, Movies, Personal Experiences, Relationships, Work

9 points by n1b0m 83 days ago | 1 comments

Greek Woman Divorces Husband After ChatGPT 'Predicted' He Would Cheat on Her (tovima.com)
Artificial intelligence language and writing models, like ChatGPT and Grok on social media X, have become an integral part of work and daily life in most of the world.

Artificial Intelligence, Relationships, Technology, Social Media

40 points by askl 85 days ago | 50 comments

Elite athletes warned to avoid one-night stands over risk of failing drug tests (theguardian.com)
Elite athletes have been warned against having one-night stands because of the risk they could be contaminated with banned drugs from engaging in casual sex.

Sports, Drugs, Health, Relationships

4 points by bookofjoe 85 days ago | 0 comments

Break It Down: A man tries to calculate what love costs (1983) [audio] (thisamericanlife.org)
Support the show to get ad-free listening, bonus content, and our new Greatest Hits Archive.

Audio, Relationships, Costs, 1980s

18 points by NaOH 86 days ago | 8 comments

What we get when male fitness standards clash with female preferences (nataliaantonova.substack.com)
And this is what we get when male fitness standards clash with female preferences.

Gender, Fitness, Relationships, Preferences, Society

26 points by robarr 89 days ago | 21 comments

'Don't deport us over health issue,' say couple (bbc.com)
A British couple who face being deported from Australia after one of them was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis (MS) have said it is not fair the life they built could be taken away "any minute".

Health, Immigration, Australia, Law, Relationships

6 points by andsoitis 90 days ago | 1 comments

Women rely partly on smell when choosing friends (arstechnica.com)
According to a new paper published in the journal Scientific Reports, two heterosexual women meeting for the first time rely partly on scent to judge whether they want to be friends with each other, deciding within minutes—practically at first whiff—whether there is friendship potential.

Science, Social Psychology, Human Behavior, Relationships

36 points by PaulHoule 90 days ago | 9 comments

The Friendship Recession: The lost art of connecting (hks.harvard.edu)
The so-called “Friendship Recession” is making its way into the vernacular—a profound shift in how Americans experience and sustain friendships.

Social Trends, Sociology, Relationships, Human Behavior

535 points by 47thpresident 90 days ago | 446 comments

The Difficulty in Dating Good Men (aella.substack.com)
I’m supposed to find someone who makes me happy. I’m 33, I’m weird, and I’ve got some eggs frozen. Let’s go.

Dating, Relationships, Personal Essays, Women's Issues

19 points by jger15 93 days ago | 13 comments

'Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria' Turns a Small Snub into a Big Deal (nytimes.com)
For some people, perceived criticism can be overwhelming.

Mental Health, Psychology, Social Media, Relationships

8 points by bookofjoe 94 days ago | 2 comments

Columbia Breakup in real time [video] (youtube.com)

Columbia University, Relationships, Video, Real-Time

4 points by zaychikk 102 days ago | 1 comments

There are two types of dishwasher people (theatlantic.com)
When the couples therapist inevitably asks, I’ll have an answer ready: The trouble began in August 2017, when my boyfriend and I moved in together, and I quickly revealed myself to be an absolute ding-dong at loading the dishwasher.

Relationships, Lifestyle, Humor

115 points by JumpCrisscross 102 days ago | 344 comments

Dementia Is Much More Common Among the Married Than the Unmarried (psychologytoday.com)
Recent research found that people who were not married were less at risk than married people for dementia.

Dementia, Health, Marriage, Relationships, Research

18 points by ivewonyoung 103 days ago | 11 comments

Intentionally Making Close Friends (2021) (neelnanda.io)
One of the greatest sources of joy in my life are my close friends. People who bring excitement and novelty into my life. Who expose me to new experiences, and ways of seeing the world. Who help me learn, point out my blind spots, and correct me when I am wrong. Who I can lean on when I need support, and who lean on me in turn.

Friendship, Personal Growth, Relationships, Psychology, Self-Improvement

328 points by fi-le 109 days ago | 116 comments

What We Knew Without Knowing (newyorker.com)
I said I wasn’t sure where we left off, Dr. MacKinnon said why not begin where you are now. I said I wasn’t sure where I was now, life seemed rather scattered, we had not seen Quintana but had talked to her, she had seemed on the occasions we spoke in generally good spirits, fairly upbeat. Still, I found myself worrying, waiting for the bad news to kick in.

Personal Essays, Life, Relationships, Uncertainty

42 points by apollinaire 114 days ago | 4 comments

Physical attractiveness far outweighs other traits in online dating success (psypost.org)
A new study published in Computers in Human Behavior Reports has found that when it comes to online dating, physical appearance overwhelmingly determines who gets matched.

Online Dating, Psychology, Relationships, Social Media, Science

14 points by GeoAtreides 123 days ago | 2 comments

Your AI Lover Will Change You (newyorker.com)
Is it important that your lover be a biological human instead of an A.I. or a robot, or will even asking this question soon feel like an antiquated prejudice?

Artificial Intelligence, Relationships, Ethics, Technology

7 points by jbegley 125 days ago | 1 comments

Would You Rather Have Married Young? (metropolitanreview.org)
In an iconic episode of Girls, “One Man’s Trash,” Hannah spontaneously spends a weekend with a hot, respectful doctor in his expensive brownstone.

Relationships, Marriage, Television, Comedy

48 points by herbertl 129 days ago | 59 comments

My pet rat is dying. I can't stop thinking about all the things he taught me (theguardian.com)
But here’s the thing: Bob is my son. He is kind, cuddly, stubborn and wilful. Even people who don’t like rats are moved by him.

Pets, Animals, Relationships, Death

7 points by arp242 134 days ago | 1 comments

It's not cheating if you write the video game solver yourself (robertheaton.com)
My wife and two little boys sometimes go on trips to see friends or family for whom my presence isn’t strictly required.

Video Games, Programming, Ethics, Relationships

21 points by ozanonay 134 days ago | 7 comments

There Are Other People in the World (defector.com)
You are at the supermarket. You push your shopping cart up and down the aisles, filling it as desired. You are making good time, especially in a crowded store, but suddenly you need to stop, because you need to reach something on a high shelf, or because you want to compare a few different items, or perhaps because you ran into a friend you haven't seen in a while and want to chat.